Mantra Monday VII: Imperfection is an Inevitable Part of Being Human
Author: Joe Lizz
Editor: Alexa Bonsey
I have said it time after time, and you’ve probably heard it more than you can remember — but there really is no such thing as a perfect person.
It’s okay to make mistakes, to fail, to struggle. Not only is it okay; it is an absolute part of this crazy experience called life. We humans are imperfect beings living imperfect lives, and yet we place so much value on this false idea of perfection.
I am a huge fan of social media and its ability to connect people and build communities. Because it is such a significant part of my life, it’s hard for me to dislike aspects of social media. Yet, I often wonder if there was such a strong desire for perfectionism before the rise of social media and the resulting ease with which we see into other people’s lives. So how do we see imperfection as a strength and not a weakness when we live in a world that provokes non-stop comparison, especially when comparison often occurs subconsciously?
Embrace the Idea that Imperfection = Growth
If reaching a state of perfection were the ultimate purpose of human existence, 99% of us would be extraordinarily disappointed. Life is about growing and evolving as individuals, and allowing that growth to empower us and our communities. Without making mistakes and having to reevaluate our approaches in life, growth has no way to take root.
Celebrate & Embrace Imperfections in Yourself and Others
“Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.” -Brene Brown
Imagine if you said nice things about all the qualities you normally put down in yourself. Imagine if you embraced your body, your weight, your ethnicity, your job, your family. It’s easy to let the bad outweigh the good — I am very guilty of that myself — but there is always something to embrace as positive.Sometimes you just have to look a little harder to find it. This applies to the way you see yourself as well as the way you see others. Celebrate the things that make you different and see differences as unique qualities. It would be a boring world to live in if every single person were the same.
Focus on the Small Steps and Count the Small Wins
Small wins add up. Small steps add up. You can’t run a mile without first making it a foot from the starting line. The biggest things in life all consist of much smaller pieces adding up over time. Celebrate them. See victories as accomplishments worthy of recognition, no matter their size.
Don’t Live Your Life on Social Media
Whether or not we show it on social media, none of our lives are perfect. Yes, even those living off of a trust fund and jet-setting around the world to tropical places have moments of doubt and imperfection. Spending too much time on social media, comparing your life to what is most likely more of a “highlight reel” of someone else’s life, can be detrimental to your sense of self, worth, and confidence. Allow social media to inspire you, empoweryou, motivate you, but put the phone down when you feel yourself becoming discouraged.