Mantra Monday XX: It's OK to Ask for Help
Author: Joe Lizz
There is a beautiful power and strength in being vulnerable. It’s humbling, both for ourselves and those with whom we share that vulnerability.
Personally, I am guilty of not seeking help when I need it.
Sometimes it’s due to pride or ego and other times it’s because I don’t want to seem like a burden to those from whom I need to ask for help.
Three decades of life have passed and I’m finally learning that not asking for help hurts me and creates ripples of delays, miscommunications, and frustration far beyond myself.
1. See help as a learning experience
What is life without constant growth and learning?
If we knew all there was to know and had experienced all there was to experience, we would be very dull, bored humans.
I’ve talked in the past about how differing opinions are a gift; they allow us to see life in a new light, a perspective we never would have recognized if it wasn’t for the other person coming from a different place in life.
The same happens when we seek help: we are given the opportunity to learn and connect with someone else with whom we may have otherwise never connected.
2. It’s ok to not have all the answers
Imperfection is a part of the human experience — in my opinion, quite a beautiful part of it.
Being humble is an honorable and strong trait to have.
It’s okay to not have all the answers and to seek those answers elsewhere (and no, Wikipedia is not where I’m going with this). Think of the most impactful experiences you’ve had in your life, the things you’ve lived firsthand. Now google that same experience and compare the information you could give to someone else based upon your firsthand experience to what they could get from a generic google search.
Asking help from other people, people who have first hand experience in what we are seeking to know, there’s no comparison to hearing the living experience and reading pages.
3. Give help
The more you offer help and the more freely you give help to others, the easier it is to seek help yourself.
This is true for two reasons:
- first, you learn that everyone needs help sometimes
- second, others know that if they were the ones seeking help, you would give it to them if you could.
Plus, being able to help someone else gives you some nice warm fuzzies.
So today, Blue Ridge Nation, I invite you to give help to the world around you.
It doesn’t have to be something grand; you can open the door for the mom at the store wrangling toddlers and balancing grocery bags, and seek help if there’s something you’ve been struggling with.
You can’t spell community without unity.
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