Mantra Monday XXVII: Honor Your Limits
Author: Joe Lizz
Set limits for yourself and honor them. Set limits for your relationships with others and honor them. Not only can you not pour from an empty glass, but you can also only pour to so many others even from a glass that is full.
You know yourself: your capabilities, your desires, your “I’m over it” point, and you know if and when other people are taking advantage of you.
Put your foot down and remind people of your limits. If they cannot respect those limits, they probably can’t or don’t respect you.
Don’t be afraid to speak up.
You have a voice — use it, and don’t be afraid to use it. Fear is a fickle, odd creature, and at times, it causes us to be timid in situations that demand self-advocacy.
You may be afraid of the backlash: losing a job, losing a friendship, breaking up with a significant other, other people reacting with anger, but don’t be willing to sacrifice your own well-being to please others.
Put yourself first, because no one else is going to take care of you the way you can, and should be, taking care of yourself. Make it known, say it loud and proud.
Let go (when all else fails).
Sometimes people are just not meant to be permanent parts of your life, and that’s ok. It’s a growing experience for all parties involved.
If people don’t honor you, your space, and your being, they aren’t your people.
Being human means accepting that life isn’t always unicorns and rainbows, understanding that we won’t always have the answers or be met with kindness.
It’s accepting that somedays you have to hit your own family with a “new phone who dis?” text because even family can be cruel and disrespecting of your boundaries. Just as life is constantly moving forward and evolving, we ourselves, and the relationships we keep, are constantly growing and evolving.
Take a deep breath and keep pressing forward tomorrow knowing you honored yourself and are taking steps to love yourself each and every day.
Self care starts with setting boundaries and limits for yourself and YOU deciding if or when exceptions arise, not other people.
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